10 Worst First Date Locations

If two people dig each other, then it doesn’t matter where they go on a date, right? Wrong…very, very wrong. I’d like to think the success of a first date is all about chemistry, connection, and good conversation…but sometimes, where we are and what we’re doing can play a key role in whether things go well or not. So, if you want to start a potential relationship off on good footing, please, I beg you, don’t take your love interest on the following dates:


  1. Family Functions

Your date will be nervous enough trying to impress you, don’t make them audition for family and friends too. Who needs pressure?


  1. Dance Clubs

Loud music, pulsing lights, guys without shirts…need I say more? Everyone’s on the prowl. That would be very uncomfortable.


  1. Movies

You spend two lame hours staring at a screen, not getting to know each other…plus there’s always a risk the flick will contain a sex scene or something even more awkward. Hello! Definitely more than awkward.


  1. Bars

Many people think alcohol is the perfect social lubricant for a first encounter, but it can lead to trouble. And also, who knows, I might say or do something foolish.


  1. Sporting Events

Any place that involves face paint, the wave, and angry drunk guys screaming at the referee is no venue for a soul mate connection. They don’t bring out the best in men. Guys can seem a little too aggressive, and women might find this scary.


  1. Beach

Just because you like strolling hand in hand seaside doesn’t meet you should do it on your first meeting. It’s hard enough to pick out a cute little black dress, how do you pick out a perfect bikini?


  1. Comedy Shows

If the comic is bad, that lame vibe will extend to the entire evening. Comedy is great when it’s good. But horrid when it’s bad.


  1. Mini Golf

Trying to outsmart that little windmill is great fun, if you’re ten years old. If you’re anything like me, you’re clumsy when you’re nervous…Bad idea for a first date.


  1. Theme Restaurants

Never take a first date to a restaurant where your waiter is dressed like Chubby Checker, Fred Flintstone or Quasimodo. I recall one of my awful date at a medieval-themed restaurant. I have to either pretend there aren’t people in bloomers delivering your food, or keep making jokes like, ‘I think I’ll have the ye olde steak.


  1. Museums

A first date is a time to kick back and relax, not solemnly contemplate the works of the great masters. It’s a little too much intellectual stimulation for a first date.


  1. Coffee Houses

Many people think that meeting for coffee is an easy, breezy way to meet cute. But let’s face it: It’s hardly romantic. It’s super boring.


I have experienced many worst dates just because of the location of our dates. It is really important for us to find the most appropriate location. After all, the setting of the date is the one that creates the date’s atmosphere.


My First Date Advice and Tips

What should a man do on a first date when he doesn’t know her well? This is a great question! And the answer is simple. Be a gentleman.

Here are some other things that might help you on your first date to be able to score another date:


  1. Plan the date. If you are the one to plan the date than you already have points in your favour. Try to avoid the more traditional dinner and a movie. It’s a long time to commit to a total stranger. Opt for something more casual, short, fun and unique. I once had a great first date playing bocce in a park.


  1. Offer to pick her up and drive but be flexible, she may want to meet you somewhere.


  1. Open the door for her.


  1. Pay. Pay for the taco off a taco truck, the entry ticket to somewhere fun or the ice cream. You don’t have to spend a lot. Keep the place casual and affordable but not fast food and no, no McDonalds!


  1. Offer her your jacket if the night gets cool.


  1. If you are doing anything active for your date like a hike or kayaking, lend a hand if she seems to be struggling. Focus more on her and her enjoyment than on you showing off your skills.


  1. Be supportive of her. Don’t criticize, mock or belittle her points of view even if you think they’re silly.


  1. Be respectful. You can flirt but do not be perverse.


  1. Look her in the eyes and slip her name into sentences. This is a nice social technique that will make her feel more connected to you.


  1. Turn on the charm. Be positive and light-hearted. Do not complain. Remember you’re making a first impression here.


  1. Do not discuss ex-girlfriends, previous dating experiences, religion (unless it is a deal breaker) or politics.


  1. Ask her questions! Listen, look at her, don’t interrupt, and make little “uh huh” noises. Feel free to tell your own story but make sure she is doing more of the talking than you are. This date isn’t about you rattling off your accomplishments. It’s about engaging with a new person and seeing if you connect.


  1. Limit yourself to 4 compliments. You don’t have to copy mine, what do you like about her? If you give more than 4, you risk sounding desperate and you might make her feel self-conscious or uncomfortable. However, if you give less than 4, you may give the impression that you aren’t interested.


  1. Don’t kiss on the first date. Women, take more time to establish their attraction to a man. Think of it like this: a man is a gas stove; his fire is lit quickly. A woman, however, is like a crock pot. She warms up a lot slower. So it can take time and a patient consistent approach before she is hot for you too.


  1. Express your interest in seeing her again before the night is up. A simple, “I’d love to talk more about this sometime” or “I’d like to see you again.” And if you mean it, always end the date with “I’ll call you.” If you don’t mean it, don’t say it! Just say, “It was really nice meeting you” and go on your merry way.


And with these tips, you will definitely be able to score your second, third or many more.

Of Women and Their Entertainment

This dating thing began with me going on my first date. I’ve listened to my dad several times. Always be ready with a venue in mind. Always make sure that the location interests her and you so you have something to talk about.

I got my first date into a fancy shmancy place at the uptown side of our place. I was 16 and she was too. We had a terrific time talking to each other. We were very much alike. However she loved the place though, I could only afford it once. But I believe she was okay with that.

But to my surprise, the place bored her. The bands weren’t grabbing her attention. She hinted at moving to another upscale bar, a dancing bar if you would. She’s into the nightlife, to my surprise.

Well, I didn’t really have enough money and I told her we could. I had a plan up my sleeve to tell her that I can’t come because of a certain emergency. That plan worked. But it got me thinking that my dad was always right; that I should always take heed of the entertainment value the place posed.

I know you might throw something at me like “hey, you should have been more proactive with her”,”women like good conversations” and so on. But guys, I was 16. All we could talk about was about our school lives, the girls in school, the guys in school, that would be pretty awkward.

But then, I just postulated that this blog might be based on high school sentimentality when conversations already exist. In fact, I have these conversation discussions covered in my website.

Conversation can entertain your partner and it’s a priceless little piece of dating installed in your mouth. If you’ve got the right words, she could laugh and be entertained with you. However, not every woman may react the same to jokes.

But places entertain them the most. When there’s some sort of comfortable silence between you, staring around allows both of you to remember the moment and make it memorable.

Based on my experience, attempting to talk things through by asking questions could get repetitive and annoying. Meanwhile, music in the background may be entertaining for the first few minutes but they can fizzle out quickly, making it difficult to continue your dialogue or build rapport.

An entertaining place may be a park where you and your date could spend your time together talking about your experiences while looking at your surroundings and other people’s business to occupy your mind. Sometimes, it’s an amusement park where you could enjoy the rides together.

It’s a hit-or-miss deal when we select venues. But this is where improvisation takes over. If you could do something to make the place interesting for your date without being too overbearing, then it becomes something memorable for both of you.

It could be a discussion about a common interest. It could be a challenge for culinary supremacy (in a grill or hot-pot buffet). It could be videogames.

Whichever it is, when you find it, everything else follows.

Always remember to entertain her. That’s the first step to knowing whether you and her were meant to be with each other.

Dating with Confidence

When it comes to dating, always resist the temptation to change. Instead, intensify your personality: If you’re shy, take a book to the bar; if you’re the life of the party, initiate the body shots; if you’re a one-woman guy, keep holding out for that long-term relationship. By being honest about who you are to yourself and the world, you’ll exude an inner confidence that will effortlessly draw women to you like never before. Let me show you how.

DON’T GIVE UP ON YOUR PLAN. Be honest with yourself about your goals for long-term monogamy; despite what your buddies may say, there’s nothing wrong with wanting what you want. So forget about convenience dates. That means no more taking a girl to an event such as a wedding just so you don’t have to go alone—even though you have no interest in pursuing anything more with her. If you do so, you just may lose an opportunity to meet your next girlfriend. And since you’re looking for a mate, never keep dating a girl simply for companionship or sex. Cut your losses the minute you know she’s not “the one” (don’t worry, she’s out there). You’ll be doing yourself—and her—a favour.


CONTROL YOUR URGES. Don’t e-mail her or leave a message more than once before receiving a response. If she doesn’t call you back, she’s not interested—it’s really that simple. Also, don’t talk about settling down and having babies on the first date. It’s OK to be honest—telling her you’re not much of a player will score you points—but she might not like long-term talk right off the bat. Let her be the one to dictate the pace at which the relationship moves.


KEEP YOUR BALANCE. Don’t overdose on her, and don’t forget about your friends—no matter how much you’re into her. If a woman suggests doing something on your monthly poker night, let her know you can’t make it because you’re hanging out with the boys. She’ll see that you’re anything but desperate, and this sets a tone for the future when you won’t want to spend every single waking minute with her. Plus, no matter what they may say, women like it when men act like men.


BE EVEN BOLDER. Don’t tone down your personality—turn it up a notch. For instance, if you give out your number a lot, have designer cards made with your contact information and hand those out instead. Think of them as “personal” cards, instead of “business” cards. And feel free to talk about yourself, but do it without bragging. An easy way: Tell funny anecdotes about what an imbecile you are, but make sure they’re actually impressive. Examples:


NEVER APOLOGIZE. Once you start, you never stop. If you’re not embarrassed by your behaviour, then she shouldn’t be, either and she shouldn’t want to change you. If she does, she should find somebody else. And so should you.


And these are the things you should to be able to do to build your dating charisma. All it takes is confidence.